whatever u may think not exist to u, cos u deny it, ignore it, or simply are unawares, will be there simply cos the person experiencing it feels that it is.
u get suspicious over 'what's wrong with people' and you accuse people of spreading rumours about u. without the conscious knowledge of the person(s)'s character, of speaking the truth, of keeping close tabs on facts. is that gossip? hardly.
facts are truths, whereas things such as half truths and non-existent 'facts' are called gossip. gossip and rumours are complements. they go hand in hand. once one spread rumours, people will pick up on them, and start to gossip about what they've heard.
pls, reflect on yourself. what have u done to someone that makes u think that the person is actually talking about u? or worse, spreading rumours to ( i quote) 'everyone about u'.
sometimes things u do just break down all the reasons and excuses a person give to stay on. things u do each time just demolishes everything the person builds up with strong foundations in hope that what was thought previously was flawed.
now it doesnt seem the case. the decision has been made, decided even before she has the chance to had the final say. thanks so much, cos u've made the most difficult decision for her...